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August 10th, 2020

Problem

searching highlights is fractured across 3 different platforms

Different platforms are best for different types of searches

sql find control

notion - visually nice

readwise - review and find new sources

Solution ideas

use readwise as a master source

need to continuously diff version of munger

Diff between mun1 and mun2

for book in mun1 search for book in mun2

if exists

for highlight in book search for corresponding id in mun2

if exists diff

if change use mun1 as parent

else

add as new

have to translate from json to sql which is bad

json can be nicely handled by some python filtering

sql not needed

cuts out open source effect

simultaneously

I've said this before and I'll say it again, the formula for making friends is not complicated. Actually doing it is complicated.

Reach out, make plans, follow through with the plans. Repeat.

when people say "I just don't know how to make friends" or that "people never want to stay friends" very often they're trying to skip one of those steps. What they're actually saying is "people don't want to be friends on my terms and on my timetable" or "I can't find people to be entertaining while I don't put in as much effort"

OK bear with me for for a minute: I've been thinking about this recently in terms of Spontaneous Desire vs Responsive Desire vs Contextual Desire. These are terms thrown around in the study of human sexuality but I think they're still valid when applied to platonic relationships

People move between those 3 types often throughout their lives and disconnect can happen when two (or more) people have different types of engagement

Haven't thought this 100% through yet but I'll give it a runthrough

Spontaneous Desire: Comes out of nowhere, needs no prompting. This is like when you randomly go "Oh man I miss XYZ we should hand out." There's nothing that caused you to think that you just did

Responsive Desire: You are interested when others show interest but it never occurs to you if unprompted. This is the type of friend who is always down to hang out but never initiates.

Contextual Desire: As it sounds it's based on context, your internal circumstances and environmental circumstances. You go visit your parents and there's an old friend who you all of a sudden you want to hang out with

Yeah they're pretty interesting! I do want to clarify though that (especially with responsive and contextual ) it's not that desire/interest isn't there until someone else "creates it" it's more that the other person helps bring forward something that already existed

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Friend dating can suck just as much as actual dating

I wonder how people who take the shotgun approach to friendship

how to diff readwise munger

find distinct readwise sources from munger

examine highlights.db for needed additional information

find entries in DB where chapter is an int

if no ValueError when converting to int than need to find correct chapter name

attempt an addition to readwise of an out of bounds type (hypothesis)

Roam Research tags as atomic units of measure and filter

Sharp Enough to Cut Yourself: Using Humor to {{or: Soften the Sting|Dull the Burn|Dull the Pain}} of Exposing Biases

*Note* I'm going to be extremely verbose in this post, that is honestly easier than it sounds. Most people do all of these things already, most subconsciously. It's all about making the subconscious practices intentional and directed.