Article/The State of Affairs

First added February 2nd, 2022 review

Affairs often live in the gaps left by the primary relationship, but the gaps themselves are not a solid foundation to build a marriage on.

drama arises from the number of unmet needs, not the number of people involved

It is hard to tell which comes first: do nonmonogamous people have to discuss everything because there’s no default playbook for polyamory, or does thinking explicitly about relationship design makes one likely to do away with exclusivity?