atlas shrugged because there was no one to atlas hug
do I think they’re the same? No! But I do think that comparing the two does a disservice to both. It’s not a competition for who is in the most pain who has the most difficult time you can have a hard time with something and I can have a hard time something and they can both exist without being in comparison or being in competition.
A lot of these things tied into emotional intimacy and how societally is experienced and expected in different ways. For a lot of men, and this is not news, emotional intimacy is tied to romantic and sexual relationships. This is the root of where a lot of 'men and women can’t be friends' rhetoric comes from.
that’s not to say that some weird sexist take where women are inherently better at XYZ more that they have more practice and sociologically they are is more excepting to for them to act in those ways, often platonically with friends. I want to get better at that, I need to be better at that. It’s challenging to always at all times be confronting that. It’s really easy to slide back into patterns not because you don’t want to create new one but because thinking about it all the time is exhausting