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What questions should partners ask each other before getting into marriage?

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URL:: Taken from a #[threadkiller].

Notes::

I don't think these questions should be asked verbatim but the general topics they bring up touch on most of the common paint points of long-term relationships. Many of these are situational questions with nuanced answers, though I guess if their answer isn't nuanced that tells you something too...

I have started to do some original thinking about important difficult conversations as well as some more specific things I look for around dating


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Children

How many kids do you want?

What values do you want to install in your children?

How do you want to discipline your kids?

What would you do if one of your children said he was homosexual?

What if our children didn't want to go to college?

How much say do children have in a family?

How comfortable are you around children?

Would you be opposed to having our parents watch the children so we can spend time alone together?

Would you put your children in private or public school?

What are your thoughts on homeschooling?

Would you be willing to adopt if we couldn't have kids?

Would you be willing to seek medical treatment if we couldn't have kids naturally?

Do you believe it's okay to discipline your child in public?

How do you feel about paying for your kid's college education?

How far apart do you want kids?

Would you want someone to stay home with the kids or use daycare?

How would you feel if our kids wanted to join the military rather than go to college?

How involved do you want grandparents to be in our parenting?

How will we handle parental decisions?

Dealing With Conflict

Would you be willing to go to marriage counseling if we were having marital problems?

If there is a disagreement between me and your family, whose side do you choose?

How do you handle disagreements?

Would you ever consider divorce?

Would you rather discuss issues as they arise or wait until you have a few problems?

How would you communicate you aren't satisfied sexually?

What is the best way to handle disagreements in a marriage?

How can I be better about communicating with you?

Moral, Political, Religious, Family Values and Beliefs

What are your views on infidelity?

What are your religious views on marriage?

What's more important, work or family?

What are your political views?

What are your views on birth control?

Would you rather be rich and miserable or poor and happy?

Who will make the biggest decisions of the household?

What would you do if someone said something bad about me?

Would you follow the advice of your family before your spouse?

What do you believe the role of a wife is?

Who should do household chores?

What do you believe the role of a husband is?

Handling Finances

How do you feel about debt?

Would you share all money with your spouse or split the money into different accounts?

What are your views on saving money?

What are your views on spending money?

What if we both want something but can't afford both?

How well do you budget?

Do you feel it is important to save for retirement?

Would you be willing to get a second job if we had financial problems?

Do you have any debt?

What if a family member wants to borrow a large sum of money?

Who will take care of the financial matters of the household

About the Relationship and Marriage

What would you do if we fell out of love?

What are your career aspirations?

What would you like to be doing five or ten years from now?

What do you think is the best way to keep the love alive in a marriage?

How do you think life will change if we got married?

What is the best thing about marriage?

What is the worst thing about marriage?

What is your idea of the best weekend?

How important are wedding anniversaries to you?

How would you like to spend special days?

What kind of grandparent do you want to be someday?

What type of house do you want to live in?

What is your biggest fear about marriage?

What excites you about getting married?

What do wedding rings mean to you?

Are you afraid to talk to me about anything?

What do you think would improve our relationship?

What would be one thing you would change about our relationship?

Do you have any doubts about the future of our relationship?

Do you believe love can pull you through anything?

Is there anything you don't trust about me?

Miscellaneous

Which would you choose - dishes or laundry?

Do you like pets?

How many pets do you want?

What to do you want to do during retirement?

At what age would you like to retire?