I don't think these questions should be asked verbatim but the general topics they bring up touch on most of the common paint points of long-term relationships. Many of these are situational questions with nuanced answers, though I guess if their answer isn't nuanced that tells you something too...
“Sexualizing self-hatred is the hallmark of any relationship that begins with extramarital infidelity.”
it isn't the repetitiveness of issues in a relationship that makes it stale and boring – it's the repetitiveness of your response to those issues. which is to say, if you fix and address each issue as they come up, then you keep "advancing"
Examples of Perpetual/Unresolvable Problems in relationships Source: The Gottman Institute
#[Twitter thread] by Stephanie: I need some first date ideas that doesn’t involve food because I’m eating out way too much. But ideally I like to be in a setting where we can sit and talk. Walks are out of the question especially when it’s subzero temps {{=: |dating relationships ideas}}
What do you think would improve our relationship?
Do you have any doubts about the future of our relationship?
The subtitles of interpersonal relationships and how they can be deliberatly molded to serve a specific narrative
What would be one thing you would change about our relationship?
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once you practice that for some time, I think you wouldn't need any lectures about relationships or whatever. you just live your life with grace, presence and tenderness and you figure out whatever you need as you go