[[Community During COVID: Creating an Unlonely Planet with Person/Jillian Richardson]]
The Joy List & The Joy List Social
started because she wanted to make NYC a less lonely place
"I study loneliness"
Considers herself "The wounded healer"
the feeling in her body of being ghosted was terrifying
came up in comedy and improv where people used humor to denigrate
Started a loneliness & joy Newsletter Nov 2016 after the election
This is uncannily similar to my experience in NYC..
Things loneliness shame is learned from upbringing
Pillars of a dysfunctional family
Don't talk Don't trust Don't feel
Watch The Work documentary
By Geffen Aldis
homosocial relationships
Definition::same-sex relationships that are not of a romantic or sexual nature, such as friendship, mentorship, or others
Was profoundly impacted by Book/The Heroines journey by Person/Maureen Murdock
sheds a powerful painful light on female relationships with other women
The hero's journey is different from the Heroines
over and over and over and over
Person/Peter Limberg came up in a competitive improv setting as well
improv is hunting for the laugh
Improv is supernormal stimuli
acting 'in community' is a muscle
What is capitalism's impact on individualism ? questions
A 4 day retreat & digital detox in the woods
What she learned
Follow up is so important
friendship is based on continuity
Polabra dinner series
man from Spain was missing the typical Spanish languid 4hr meals
would casually spend the entire day with someone and it wasn't a big deal
now will only meet people for 2+ hours
What she learned from Spain about all-day friendships
engaging in a conv for that long can seem daunting but it doesn't have to be
Be OK without a plan
your anxious productive gremlin murders the joy of community favorite
How can you be in places
Her work is to be curious about anyone
you learn new things when you ask new questions
sounds obvious but isn't?
"learning through curiosity"
The goal is always to be "more curious, less afraid"
there is fear that prevents us from being curious
emotional equanimity new word
harry pickens -
a citizens' organization uniting red and blue Americans in a working alliance to depolarize America
Sounds like you put a lot of beautiful effort into cultivating the relationships around yourself. How do you approach others who may not be putting the same amount of attention or time into cultivating relationships?
If you could be friends with any type of person who are they? What would you do with them? What would you talk about? questions
Definition::the widespread assumption that a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is normal for humans, in that it is a universally shared goal, and that such a relationship is normative, in the sense that it should be aimed at in preference to other relationship types
[[The Stoa Village]]
A group of people interested in bringing the Stoa community offline
stoa art museum crawl maybe?
From Hannah Robbins : stoa art museum crawl pls
From Jacob Crossman : +1 Adam
joylist.nyc
how do you cultivate your curiosity and hot do you cultivate the same in others?