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October 12th, 2020

[[Community During COVID: Creating an Unlonely Planet with Person/Jillian Richardson]]

The Joy List & The Joy List Social

started because she wanted to make NYC a less lonely place

"I study loneliness"

Considers herself "The wounded healer"

the feeling in her body of being ghosted was terrifying

came up in comedy and improv where people used humor to denigrate

Started a loneliness & joy Newsletter Nov 2016 after the election

This is uncannily similar to my experience in NYC..

Things loneliness shame is learned from upbringing

Pillars of a dysfunctional family

Don't talk Don't trust Don't feel

Watch The Work documentary

By Geffen Aldis

homosocial relationships

Definition::same-sex relationships that are not of a romantic or sexual nature, such as friendship, mentorship, or others

sheds a powerful painful light on female relationships with other women

The hero's journey is different from the Heroines

over and over and over and over

Person/Peter Limberg came up in a competitive improv setting as well

improv is hunting for the laugh

Improv is supernormal stimuli

acting 'in community' is a muscle

What is capitalism's impact on individualism ? questions

A 4 day retreat & digital detox in the woods

What she learned

Follow up is so important

friendship is based on continuity

Polabra dinner series

man from Spain was missing the typical Spanish languid 4hr meals

would casually spend the entire day with someone and it wasn't a big deal

now will only meet people for 2+ hours

What she learned from Spain about all-day friendships

engaging in a conv for that long can seem daunting but it doesn't have to be

Be OK without a plan

your anxious productive gremlin murders the joy of community favorite

How can you be in places

Her work is to be curious about anyone

you learn new things when you ask new questions

sounds obvious but isn't?

"learning through curiosity"

The goal is always to be "more curious, less afraid"

there is fear that prevents us from being curious

emotional equanimity new word

harry pickens -

a citizens' organization uniting red and blue Americans in a working alliance to depolarize America

Sounds like you put a lot of beautiful effort into cultivating the relationships around yourself. How do you approach others who may not be putting the same amount of attention or time into cultivating relationships?

If you could be friends with any type of person who are they? What would you do with them? What would you talk about? questions

Definition::the widespread assumption that a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is normal for humans, in that it is a universally shared goal, and that such a relationship is normative, in the sense that it should be aimed at in preference to other relationship types

[[The Stoa Village]]

A group of people interested in bringing the Stoa community offline

stoa art museum crawl maybe?

From Hannah Robbins : stoa art museum crawl pls

From Jacob Crossman : +1 Adam

how do you cultivate your curiosity and hot do you cultivate the same in others?